Comments on: We’re not in Kansas anymore. http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/ Where chaos reigns supreme - Life, love and everything in between. Fri, 03 Oct 2008 13:04:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: Veronica http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-728 Wed, 05 Dec 2007 21:19:14 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-728 What a nightmare for you. I say fight it all the way. What a nightmare for you. I say fight it all the way.

]]> by: Julie http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-718 Wed, 05 Dec 2007 13:09:53 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-718 I wish I had a huge heap of legal wisdom to pass on but I just wanted you to know your post was heartbreaking. How I want a happy ending on this for all of you. You are in my prayers. A big hug to you. I wish I had a huge heap of legal wisdom to pass on but I just wanted you to know your post was heartbreaking. How I want a happy ending on this for all of you. You are in my prayers. A big hug to you.

]]> by: Lisa\'s Chaos http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-717 Wed, 05 Dec 2007 12:53:30 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-717 I'm glady you shared that and hope your heart gets lighter with time. I was going to say I was sorry for your loss but after reading on it sounds like loss was always surrounding him. I am sorry. PS - I was diagnosed with colon cancer Oct 2005 but am still here and doing good. I thank the stars for my time here when I read of others less fortunate. I’m glady you shared that and hope your heart gets lighter with time. I was going to say I was sorry for your loss but after reading on it sounds like loss was always surrounding him. I am sorry. PS - I was diagnosed with colon cancer Oct 2005 but am still here and doing good. I thank the stars for my time here when I read of others less fortunate.

]]> by: childlife http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-703 Wed, 05 Dec 2007 07:07:49 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-703 I'm so very sorry Tiff... I can't even begin to know what this is like. I just know that you're hurting and hope you know that I care and that you are being kept in my prayers. Hugs to you and your dear family! I’m so very sorry Tiff… I can’t even begin to know what this is like. I just know that you’re hurting and hope you know that I care and that you are being kept in my prayers. Hugs to you and your dear family!

]]> by: Trish http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-698 Tue, 04 Dec 2007 22:47:21 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-698 OH Tiff ...I am sorry you are hurting so much because of your father. I am so sorry you are in this uncertain situation. I wouldn't sign either but sometimes the fight is not the worth the angst or downward spiral it can bring.I think the advice of Liz is valid - get something in writing at least for the boys. Can you seek help through other legal aid avenues on the boys behalf ? OH Tiff …I am sorry you are hurting so much because of your father. I am so sorry you are in this uncertain situation. I wouldn’t sign either but sometimes the fight is not the worth the angst or downward spiral it can bring.I think the advice of Liz is valid - get something in writing at least for the boys. Can you seek help through other legal aid avenues on the boys behalf ?

]]> by: Tot's Mom http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-697 Tue, 04 Dec 2007 20:34:51 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-697 Got here through Blog Catalog and it's always difficult to read about a fellow blogger hurting for some reason. I can't say I understand your feelings perfectly so, I guess I can only urge you to be brave in confronting all of life's challenges. Got here through Blog Catalog and it’s always difficult to read about a fellow blogger hurting for some reason. I can’t say I understand your feelings perfectly so, I guess I can only urge you to be brave in confronting all of life’s challenges.

]]> by: kim http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-696 Tue, 04 Dec 2007 20:02:17 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-696 I had to comment again Tiff.. Please don't sign anything .... I had to comment again Tiff.. Please don’t sign anything ….

]]> by: Tracey http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-695 Tue, 04 Dec 2007 18:41:14 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-695 Tiff, Tiff, Tiff, Tiff, Tiff. You sound surprised! What did you expect? There's a REASON why she's known as ESM! You already know my thoughts on this.....fight the bitch all the way! Seek legal advice. Don't give in to her bullying. That man should not be allowed to continue to make you miserable from beyond the grave. DO NOT SIGN A THING! Tiff, Tiff, Tiff, Tiff, Tiff. You sound surprised! What did you expect? There’s a REASON why she’s known as ESM! You already know my thoughts on this…..fight the bitch all the way! Seek legal advice. Don’t give in to her bullying. That man should not be allowed to continue to make you miserable from beyond the grave. DO NOT SIGN A THING!

]]> by: katef http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-694 Tue, 04 Dec 2007 16:13:26 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-694 oh that sounds just nasty... we've had similar issues when my FIL died but to do with his mother's estate (she is still alive but basically a vegetable) and how it has been being administered and all kinds of other terrible awful stuff... Coping with the loss of a family member is hard enough without people getting all 'grabby' for what they think they 'deserve'. I say fight too... at the very least don't make it easy... no idea the circumstances but I'd say you don't HAVE to sign anything.. so don't. *hugs* oh that sounds just nasty… we’ve had similar issues when my FIL died but to do with his mother’s estate (she is still alive but basically a vegetable) and how it has been being administered and all kinds of other terrible awful stuff… Coping with the loss of a family member is hard enough without people getting all ‘grabby’ for what they think they ‘deserve’. I say fight too… at the very least don’t make it easy… no idea the circumstances but I’d say you don’t HAVE to sign anything.. so don’t.
*hugs*

]]> by: Parents Home http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-693 Tue, 04 Dec 2007 15:05:45 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-693 You should fight. That woman has no right to do what she is doing. Your children deserve what their grand father wanted them to have. www.parentshome.net You should fight. That woman has no right to do what she is doing. Your children deserve what their grand father wanted them to have.

www.parentshome.net

]]> by: kim http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-692 Tue, 04 Dec 2007 14:22:17 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-692 Don't sign anything.. I am sorry I can't help in a more practical way.. Just don't sign anything until you have had legal advice... Don’t sign anything.. I am sorry I can’t help in a more practical way.. Just don’t sign anything until you have had legal advice…

]]> by: river http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-691 Tue, 04 Dec 2007 14:14:07 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-691 Don't wills have to be witnessed and signed by a lawyer? How could such an ambiguous will get passed? I say fight it. Don’t wills have to be witnessed and signed by a lawyer? How could such an ambiguous will get passed? I say fight it.

]]> by: Tracy http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-690 Tue, 04 Dec 2007 08:52:42 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-690 A brave post for you to write - the politics of death can be so awful. I hope that you find a good attorney with a solution that keeps you from being vulnerable. A brave post for you to write - the politics of death can be so awful. I hope that you find a good attorney with a solution that keeps you from being vulnerable.

]]> by: Liz http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-689 Tue, 04 Dec 2007 08:11:26 +0000 http://threeringcircus.blogsome.com/2007/12/04/228/#comment-689 I won't pretend that I understand the situation, but for what it is worth, my instinct says FIGHT that ESM! I have no idea how the legal system for estates there works and what would even be necessary to fight her, but there has to be a way to contest her wishes. DON'T SIGN ANYTHING that your ESM wants you to. Do you have an estate attorney who can help you? Can a trust be established in the names of the kids? The only stipulation I would say would make sense in signing is IF and ONLY IF the ESM immediately placed the equivalent of what they would get currently straight into a trust fund to be administered only by you and or your husband. But verbal promises won't suffice, I would say that something has to be written to legally document such a stipulation. Don't let your ESM get one over on you! I won’t pretend that I understand the situation, but for what it is worth, my instinct says FIGHT that ESM! I have no idea how the legal system for estates there works and what would even be necessary to fight her, but there has to be a way to contest her wishes. DON’T SIGN ANYTHING that your ESM wants you to. Do you have an estate attorney who can help you? Can a trust be established in the names of the kids? The only stipulation I would say would make sense in signing is IF and ONLY IF the ESM immediately placed the equivalent of what they would get currently straight into a trust fund to be administered only by you and or your husband. But verbal promises won’t suffice, I would say that something has to be written to legally document such a stipulation. Don’t let your ESM get one over on you!

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