Lily in the middle.
Imogen amd Madeline have been invited to take part in a research study with the Australian Twin Registry. I mentioned it to them on the way down to Sydney, in the car. They were really excited to participate and I joined in with the conversation readily. From the back of the bus came a small, sad voice… ‘what about me?" she asked.
What about her? She is a singleton in the middle of two sets of twins. She is every bit as special as the other children but the world looks upon her differently. She is only one. What is so amazing about that?
When she was little Lily would tell me that she was the third twin. My heart would shatter into a million pieces. I felt for her. She wanted that same attention that her sisters got. She craved it. I could understand that.
Now she is feeling it again. it doesn’t matter what I say. I tell her that she is so special because she is one and that having one baby was extraordinary, in our house but she feels…different, left out, sometimes alone. We have had some sad days this year, Lily and I. Days when she is devastated that William died because, he was supposed to be her someone. He was supposed to even the score. He was everything she’d hoped for and in an instant he was gone. Days that I ache to hold her and tell her she is everyting to me but she pushes me away, is angry with me because I couldn’t provide her the one thing she wanted - a twin of her own.
As she gets older, I wonder how it is going to effect her teenage years. I wonder if she will seek attention in negative ways or if she will just withdraw more than she has already. I wonder if David and I have given her a good foundation to build self confidence in herself, so she feels special in her own unique way.
I know we love her. I know, if we could, we would protect her from that feeling of being alone.
Lily is a delightful, precious, beautiful and unique little girl. She has an amazing zest for life and an attractive personality and nature. She makes me feel as though I’m important, and that is a special gift- to make others feel valued. She will never truly be alone, because she is surrounded by a loving family who cherish her for who she really is. It is devastating that she doesn’t sense her own ’specialness’, but she will find her niche in this world and do her part to make it great. Please give her a hug and kiss from me and tell her that I, too, love her very much.
Comment by Tracey — October 6, 2007 @ 12:49 pm
oh , I second what Tracey said.Lily , is a very precious wonderful ‘individual’.With Her twinkling eyes and vibrant smile she has touched many hearts.Tell her we think she is special too.{hug}
Comment by Trish — October 7, 2007 @ 11:00 am
Lily is very special to me. She is most like me in so many ways & yet so much like her Mum, too. She is imaginative, artistic & a dreamer. I love her shy little half smile & the way she tells her secrets & stories. She smiles with her eyes & is not afraid to bare her soul. I’m so sorry she feels so alone but she is very independent & I know that this trait alone will stand her in good stead with whatever the future may hold for her. I love her to pieces. I hope Lily knows that. xoxoxo
Comment by Mum — October 9, 2007 @ 12:15 pm
Merry Tonelli - Oh Tracy, what beautiful hotpos !! You not only have shown some very special moments but have captured the personality of my gorgeous granchilren as they truly are and and and I can also see who they will become .Congratulations , wonderful photography !P.S I would love to see the Mum who flies through the air !
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